Why are you here? This is one of the questions on the back of the menu at The Why Café.

Some of you may have read the intriguing book The Why Café by John Strelecky.  Over the next few weeks I will be sharing with you some of the insights from the book that may open you up to a new level of introspection. 
 
The character in the book is named John and as the story begins he sets off on a much-needed holiday only to get stuck behind a major accident on the highway (of life). After his patience runs out he decides to try to find an alternate route.
 
Without realizing it John’s trip starts to become a metaphor of his life.  He set out with a game plan, ran into some roadblocks then headed off out without a map or a clear sense of where he was going. As time passed, he got lost, hungry and almost ran out of gas.  Yet he kept going, feeling it was too late to turn back, getting himself deeper into a situation in which he felt very powerless. 
 
He eventually happens upon a diner in the middle of nowhere.  At the diner (The Why Café), he tells the waitress that he is frustrated, lost and out of gas and she smiles, a knowing, slightly sly smile that John does not yet understand.  Then she asks him the big question – why are you here?  He explains his view of the situation, not realizing that the question is a bigger one, and refers to his purpose for being on earth, not at the café!  She smiles again.
 
Until next time you may want to see if the question ‘why AM I here?’ resonates with you. But be forewarned, once you start reflecting on it you might not be able to stop…

Jackie

 

From Fear to Courage & Confidence!

Today I want to talk a bit about WHY people don’t go after what they really want in life.  Fear is at the heart of why most people don’t move forward towards their calling, towards what they are really passionate about – often a fear of not being good enough, not making enough money or simply not knowing how to move boldly forward. 
 
In my coaching I tend to work with highly sensitive, passionate and intuitive women who want to make a meaningful difference in the world but who feel stuck because they are scared to speak up, to put themselves out there, scared that they are not educated enough or strong enough or credible enough. Scared that by speaking their truth, by truly standing up for themselves they will lose or risk too much. 
 
These women often put up with behaviour that one could call bullying or a simple lack of respect from others. They put up with it because keeping the peace is so important to them.  But at some point the status quo is no longer tolerable let alone safe or peaceful. They realize that the situation is no longer good for them or others around them. 

Their health may start to be affected, some times in small ways like not being able to sleep well and some times in big ways like a cancer diagnosis.  People may tell them to simply be tough or strong or less sensitive but that is just not in their nature.  I help these women find a way to explore and learn from their fears so they can express themselves, become unstuck and walk courageously down a new path in a way that feels intuitively right for them.  A peaceful yet powerful way of listening to, respecting and expressing their inner knowing - what is true for them. This helps them gain confidence and feel empowered to pursue what they feel passionate about.
 
If some of what I have said resonates with you, I invite you to reflect on and answer the following questions;

• What truth am I hiding from?
• If I had no fears what is my inner voice encouraging me to do or say?
• If done in a peaceful, respectful way, how would my life change by doing or saying those things?

Why are you here?

This is one of the questions on the back of the menu at The Why Café. 
 
Some of you may have read the intriguing book The Why Café by John Strelecky.  Over the next few weeks I will be sharing with you some of the insights from the book that may open you up to a new level of introspection. 
 
The character in the book is named John and as the story begins he sets off on a much-needed holiday only to get stuck behind a major accident on the highway (of life). After his patience runs out he decides to try to find an alternate route.
 
Without realizing it John’s trip starts to become a metaphor of his life.  He set out with a game plan, ran into some roadblocks then headed off out without a map or a clear sense of where he was going. As time passed, he got lost, hungry and almost ran out of gas.  Yet he kept going, feeling it was too late to turn back, getting himself deeper into a situation in which he felt very powerless. 
 
He eventually happens upon a diner in the middle of nowhere.  At the diner (The Why Café), he tells the waitress that he is frustrated, lost and out of gas and she smiles, a knowing, slightly sly smile that John does not yet understand.  Then she asks him the big question – why are you here?  He explains his view of the situation, not realizing that the question is a bigger one, and refers to his purpose for being on earth, not at the café!  She smiles again.
 
Until next time you may want to see if the question ‘why AM I here?’ resonates with you. But be forewarned, once you start reflecting on it you might not be able to stop…

Jackie